Often,
we cannot look at ourselves, because it is too painful to do so,
or because we are unceasingly judging ourselves. Rather than saying,
"I cannot accept that", or denying the situation in
which we find ourselves, we really need to look and see, to be
aware of what is happening.
Be
aware
Being
able to see or be aware of our emotions does not mean that we
will be able to live the emotions in a right way from day to day.
We should not expect immediate result, neither should we make
the mistake of thinking like this : "I am jealous, I know
it well, and I will never be any good !" It is not a question
of culpability by admitting that we are bad. Guilt or culpability
has no place in consciousness or in vigilance. Rather, it is a
question of seeing who we are and what is right. If we are aware,
our thinking becomes clearer, then it is possible to see the emotions
in the instant they arise. As a result, our mind will be increasingly
free. We release the mind of any obstacles. This fruit or result
will not come up directly because we cannot liberate ourselves
immediately of all obstacles. Just because we have resolved to
see the emotions does not mean that we can see them. Nevertheless,
little by little, we will come to recognize the true balance that
is within us. We will recognize who we really are. We will in
turn realize that others are in the same situation as we are,
that they have the same emotions and experience the same confusion.
Take
the example of a baby who suddenly cries because we have left
him on his own. We are not angry about it. We might be a little
irritated, but no hatred is aimed towards the baby. We excuse
the baby for crying because he is too young to understand.
On
the other hand, when faced with an adult with the same reaction,
immediately we would form an opinion about him. We will directly
reduce him to our vision of things and our perception. If only
we can get pass our subjectivity, if only we can manage to be
more and more aware of what is happening within ourselves, then,
instead of seeing the defects of others, we will pacify our own
minds. We will be much more at ease and peaceful. Given any situation,
we experience it not from the point of view of the defects of
others, but from the perspective of seeking a possible solution
that is positive. Instead of being judgmental, we think: "How
can I help him find a solution to the situation that is positive
both for him and for me?" Gradually, we will soften from
within - from the harshness of the ego we arrive at the softness
of compassion.
